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Weekend with Homework

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Yesterday was the weekend with so many homework! Uhh! Homework is never end, hahaha.. but, if you don't have any homework, you must be careful, and check, do u still have home or not. Hahaha..
And today i spent my day with doing the Indonesia remedial homework and this blogger by myself. Do you know, we have so many Indonesia remedial homework, there are 50 questions with the long sentences, OMG.. i got 75 the KKM is 80. there are only 5 people passed the exam. i've tried my best and do it by my best, but i didn't pass it. i'll keep try to be better than yesterday:) tomorrow will be better! Jia You :)

Why We SHOULD Talk to Strangers

The Big Benefits of Small Talk

Small talk certainly isn’t something the average person especially prizes or looks forward to in everyday life. When we think of small talk, we might think of being bored by someone we don’t really want to speak with, or by subjects that don’t ‘matter.’ Yet small talk actually serves important purposes for developing relationships, character, and skills. Small talk (the act of ‘making conversation’ with people you don’t really know well and whom you aren’t sure if you will ever care to know well), is seen by many as awkward and uncomfortable, as described articulately by one user of the Urban Dictionary (above). Yet an inability to make small talk, especially with strangers, can affect our public spaces, sense of community, and general ability to function in public.

So the next time you feel awkwardly unconnected to those around you while killing time in an airport lounge or waiting for a hair appointment to begin, keep the following benefits of small talk in mind, and break that ice.

Benefit #1: Small Talk Creates a Sense of Community in Public Spaces

I’m old enough to remember a time when no one I knew, and hardly anyone I saw, had a cell phone. Back then, bus stops, dentist offices, or even store change rooms were places where you met people. I remember waiting for my mom to try on clothes, hearing her and the lady in the next room each giving friendly feedback on what the other was wearing. I remember my parents discovering small-world connections while we waited for a dental checkup. I remember going with my grandma on the bus and her chatting about all manner of things to other passengers. These interactions had the function of making people who were strangers feel like a community, even though they weren’t neighbours, or co-workers, or friends. I seem to recall more people smiled at each other on the street back then and said, “Good morning,” too.

Being willing to talk to strangers can also help create a sense of community in a place far from home - like this welcoming man with whom we spent a few hours as we wandered around the temples in Khajuraho, India.

Benefit #2: Small Talk Helps us Hone Gracefulness and Acceptance

One of the benefits of spending time with people we already know and like is that we can expect to have a pleasant experience with them. In the process of “becoming friends,” we’ve probably become accustomed to their behavioural habits; any small, annoying traits are easily overlooked because of all the things we like. When we talk to strangers, though, we might engage someone in a conversation who will do every little thing to irk us – talk too loudly, mumble, laugh raucously at their own jokes, never laugh at anything, spit on the sidewalk while we’re talking, chew with their mouth open, smack their gum… the list is truly endless.

It’s perfectly reasonable to choose to spend our free time with people whose habits do not drive us crazy, but when we actively try to AVOID spending time with strangers because they might be “weird,” or “annoying,” we forgo a valuable opportunity to increase gracefulness and acceptance. There are many situations in which having good skills in these areas are a great advantage. If being interviewed by someone who performs one of your worst pet-peeves at 20-second intervals, don’t you want to be able to gracefully smile through that, rather than having your obvious distaste be read as something that could cost you the opportunity? If you find a team member to be downright irritating, do you want to be able to look past that and get the job done, or risk being removed because you can’t rise above and aren’t a ‘team-player’?

Benefit #3: Small Talk Could Lead to a New or Revived Interest

Not every small talk interaction with a stranger will be an exercise in increasing patience and acceptance. You might find yourself in a truly interesting discussion when you discover what you have in common. Playing “wing-woman” at a bar one night, I found myself alone while my friend approached a potential partner, and I noticed someone engaged in very non-bar-like behaviour – sitting with a sketchbook and looking at me! As someone who likes to sketch when bored, I didn’t move for a few more minutes, but then got up and went to see what the artist had been drawing. He showed me his somewhat erratic, impressionistic sketches, not only of me but of other people in the bar, and we had a nice chat about why drawing quick impressions of what’s in front of you is both fun and a good way to practice your skills. In the weeks following our meeting, I found myself sketching more often when I was bored in public, rather than playing with my phone, and it was refreshing, to say the least!

Benefit #4: Small Talk is Often How We Begin Our Closest Friendships

When I think of some of the closest friends I’ve had, I realize that our relationships started with small talk. The one I griped with about a certain professor always being late for class, or the one I casually asked to come have lunch at my house when she mentioned how far her place was from campus. Think of all the pick-up approaches (either in-person or online) that start with some lame conversational pretext and end in lifelong love affairs. If we don’t have these “meaningless” interactions with others, we risk missing out on some really meaningful ones down the road.

Many friendships would never get this close without breaking some ice at the beginning.

Benefit #5: Small Talk Can Allow us to Be Someone Who Matters

If you position yourself as open to new interactions and small talk, you might end up truly helping someone you didn’t even know needed help. I think of the woman I met by a pool while on vacation when I was sixteen, who, after about three minutes of chit chat, began opening up to me about her feelings of loneliness and issues with her family. We ended up talking for about an hour, and then I never saw her again. Although I’m sure at sixteen I didn’t have any particularly sage-like advice, I remember feeling happy that I had been able to offer someone even just some empathy and comforting words, and her palpable relief when she walked away was rewarding to see. A chance meeting with someone who feels they have no one else to talk to might change their whole day, allow them to release pent-up emotions, or help them sort through complicated thoughts by talking through them aloud.

Benefit #6: Small Talk Can Bring us Networking Opportunities

Being in the “right place at the right time” doesn’t mean much if you’re in that place with your headphones on and your mind closed to new people. When we make small talk with strangers, we might discover “small world” connections, and if we’re lucky, some of these might turn into opportunities for new jobs, to find a great service we’ve been looking for, or to finally get an inside contact with a band we love. In these situations, the other benefits of small talk, like a sense of community and gracefulness, will help us out, too. When your small talk acquaintance passes your name along, they’ll probably pass along how friendly and pleasant you were, too.

Benefit #7: Small Talk can Inspire!

Seriously. Despite the bad rap we discussed at the very beginning, small talk can lead to a memorable discussion that will last a lifetime and will most certainly “matter” to you. Three winters ago, my husband and I were in India for the holidays – our first time away from our families for Christmas. During the buffet Christmas Eve dinner in the dining room, my husband suggested that we invite an elderly, single lady he had noticed to eat with us; I’ll admit, I was selfishly hesitant, but agreed that it would be the nice thing to do. Never again would I think twice about this decision – our holiday dinner was filled with fascinating stories by this woman, from her time in South Africa at the end of apartheid speaking with women there about their hopes for their children, which led to her later decision upon retirement to leave her native England and move to Pakistan to build schools for girls. She was in India on holiday break from her most recently-built school, and unfortunately the friend who was supposed to join her had been delayed a few days. My husband and I went to bed that night feeling energized about the possibilities that awaited in life, even in the conventionally ‘non-adventurous’ years of retirement, but we would not have had that experience if we had been averse to small talk with strangers.

Source:http://hubpages.com/politics/Why-We-SHOULD-Talk-to-Strangers-the-Big-Benefits-of-Small-Talk#

The Tips to be Happy

Value happiness: Happiness can be learned, but finding meaning and a purpose in life is what leads to it, not the other way around

I found myself saying: ‘Right now, no, but I will be again, I’m pretty sure of that. And you’re not to worry. No one can expect to be happy all the time.’ And yet it seems the pursuit of happiness has become a national preoccupation. 

Eminent economists, politicians and psychologists debate endlessly about the best way to create a happy society, while David Cameron’s ‘happiness index’ aims to pin down just how content we are.

Plenty of woolly self-help books exist which promise to unlock the secret of happiness. Just last week, the Institute of Economic Affairs concluded rather prosaically that money had a large part to play.

ACCEPT WHAT YOU HAVE

Research shows that happy people have modest levels of expectation and aspirations — they want what they can get — while unhappy people never seem to get what they want. They also know how to avoid disappointments and how to generate pleasant surprises. This is because they strive for realistic goals and are happy with their lot. As Dr Jose de Jesus Garcia Vega, of the University of Monterrey, Mexico, confirms, we must accept things as they come.

‘We spend a lot of time complaining about the things that happen to us, but this is a waste of time and effort,’ he says. ‘To be happy, we need to enjoy what we have.’

ENJOY WHAT YOU DO

Happy people do what they enjoy and enjoy what they do — and don’t do it for the money  or glory. There’s no point being stuck in a job you hate, surrounded by unfriendly colleagues just because the money is good — people forget that they are allowed to be happy at work, too. Many spend the best years of their lives trying to make money, sacrificing their health and family in the process, says Dr Garcia Vega. Later, they spend the same money they made working trying to recover their lost health and estranged family.

LIVE FOR TODAY

Don’t dwell on the past, on things that went wrong or previous failures. Similarly, don’t dream about an idealised future that doesn’t exist or worry about what hasn’t happened yet. Happy people live for the now; they have positive mind sets. If you can’t be happy today, what makes you think tomorrow will be different?

CHOOSE HAPPINESS

Don’t be afraid to step back and re-evaluate your goals. Imagine your life as a story that you can edit and revise as you  go along. This kind of flexible approach requires positive thinking and an open mind — you need to actively choose to be happy.

NICELAND
Iceland has the happiest population, while Britain came ninth in a world survey

‘You always have the freedom to choose the manner in which you wish to approach any given situation,’ says Dr Garcia Vega.This theory is backed up by Ingrida Geciene of Vilnius University, Lithuania, who researched the happiness of people in 31 European countries.

She found that ‘voluntarists’ (people who feel they have free choice and complete control over their life) were happier than fatalists (people who think little can be changed by personal intervention). 
Luckily for us, Northern European countries contain more voluntarists while Latin European countries such as Spain and Italy have a higher percentage of fatalists. 

RELATIONSHIPS

We get our happiness from other people, and from supporting other people. Remember that just as other people can make us happy, we are all ‘other people’ to someone else. And cherish people who are important to you. Research also shows that married people are happier than single people.

STAY BUSY

If you want to be happier, develop an outgoing, social personality — accept that drinks invitation, join the walking club, book group or choir. The best way to savour pleasure is in the company of others. Build a rich social life, says Eunkook M. Suh, a psychology professor at Yonsei University in Seoul, not as an obligation, but because it is rewarding, meaningful and fun.

Active, busy, social people are the healthiest and happiest, in society. Get involved: make your motto ‘use it or lose it.’

DON'T COMPARE

Ambition is healthy and makes people happy, explains Claudia Senik, a professor  at the University of  Paris-Sorbonne, but envy makes them unhappy. Yet comparisons with others can spoil the benefits of ambition and are only useful if you learn something from them. Focus on your goals and dreams  so you can enjoy  your ambition and achievements.

BE YOURSELF

Just as you shouldn’t compare yourself with others, it’s important not to worry about what others think about you — then you can truly be yourself. 
Happy people are spontaneous, natural and real; they  say what they think and  feel, and aren’t concerned what others think of them. Being oneself makes one feel free  and authentic.

STOP WORRYING

Don’t take yourself too seriously. Happy people don’t worry  and they recognise that 90 per cent of worries never come true.

GET ORGANISED

You might envy those laid-back bohemian types who just do things on the spur of the moment, but don’t be fooled. Happy people plan and organise, they have goals and a purpose. You can only get what you want or desire if you know what it is you want or desire in the first place. So while those chilled-out friends might seem happy, they’re actually just drifting along.

THINK POSITIVE

Bottling up emotions and bad feelings creates psychological distress and physical discomfort. Happy people get things off their chest, their motto is: get rid of it, or it will get rid of you. Similarly, work at developing optimistic thinking; happy people always look on the  bright side.

Successful athletes know to focus on winning, not losing, explains Miriam Akhtar, one of the first positive psychologists in the UK. We need to switch from a negative, glass-half-empty outlook to a glass-half-full and put optimism into practice to be happiest. Optimism is the mind’s natural self-defence mechanism against depression.

VALUE HAPPINESS

Happiness can be learned, but finding meaning and a purpose in life is what leads to it, not the other way around. The happiest people appreciate and realise that being happy adds years to their life, and life to their years.

Thats all the tips i can share to you, always be happy guys! ^-^

Source : http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2090271/12-secrets-happy-Using-research-100-world-experts-new-book-shows-look-bright-side.html

English Language Is Important

English Language Is Important

As we know that English is an international language. Most of people in every part of the world know it, even they learn deeply all about English. English is a very useful language. If you can speak English fluently and understand this language, you will get many advantages three of which are you can be a popular student, you can get a lot of information from the internet easily and you can go to around the world without being afraid to lose. Most of teenagers want to be a popular student in order they can have many friends. If you can speak English, becoming a popular student is easy and having a lot of friends is not difficult, because if you can sing English fluently and know about the recent universal movies, most of your classmates will be proud of you and you will be a popular student, even all of your classmate will be your friend. Another advantage if you learn English is you can get a lot of information from the internet easily. In fact, most of computers are programed in English and if we want to browse in the internet, we have to understand about the computer fluently. As a result, we can get a lot of information from the internet easily. The most attractive thing if we learn and understand English is we can go around the world without being afraid to lose. I am sure that everyone wants to go around the world, even young person. In fact, most of the direction boards in every country are written in English, so if we understand English, we will get easy to read the direction boards and we will never lose. In short, if you want to get all of the advantages, you have to learn and understand English.

Source:http://writer-hissha.blogspot.co.id/2013/05/the-advantages-of-learning-english.html